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Naysayers and Shortcuts of Masters and Millionaires
How many of these strange creatures walk the earth? You know one or two of them yourself. We call them "naysayers." No matter how terrific an idea may be that they are presented with, these people invariably have something unpleasant to say... about the idea, and/or the person who presented the idea. Day after day, you'll find these self-styled critics putting down someone else's thoughts, ideas, and actions.
I'm impelled to observe that I cannot remember meeting one single "naysayer" who had achieved whatever it is they were derogating... nor one successful person who had this type of negative attitude... not once in all of my travels. A fellow famed for his wisdom wrote, "We are offended by a fault in someone... only after, or because, we have identified that fault... in ourselves."
Perhaps this is why we are often unwilling to open up to potentially valuable advice and suggestions from others: it's easier to do so than to face up to the fact that we haven't gone ahead and fixed up that particular area of our lives. After all, if we downgrade the suggestion, or the person issuing it, we successfully avoid looking at our own performance AND effort levels. We'd rather fix the blame than the problem, yes?
Rich Little, high school football star crippled in an accident, realized how much he disliked being with himself. Asking questions, he found that most people turn on the radio or TV, and otherwise avoid spending time with themselves & determining WHAT needs fixing or improving, and creating a plan for doing so. This encouraged him to develop a course on learning how to get along better with self AND others, how to better prepare for job interviews, & how to set plans for one's life; but when he sought financing from various foundations, they all laughed at his multi-page applications, pointing out that he had no college degrees, or other "credentials" for justifying a grant. FACT: 95% of the people who read this would "take the hint" after 30 different foundations rejected their applications. But not Rich. He waited until seventy five foundations said "No." That's when he REALLY buckled down & got busy. Thirty more turned him down...40 more, & yes, fifty.
A total of a hundred and forty foundations called to tell him it was a "no go." Do YOU have the fortitude to keep on going in the face of so much failure? Rich did. When the Kellogg Foundation called to tell him "Sorry, Rich, there's just no way we can see you starting this type of program for eighty thousand dollars," his heart sank yet again.
The voice on the phone continued. "Rich, it seems to us that a program like this just wouldn't work with eighty thousand dollars; so we're giving you $150,000 to start with."
Last I heard, Rich Little's program was being taught in more than 5,500 high schools around the world!! He simply had no time to pay heed to the "naysayers." There's a profitable lesson for all of us here.Mom used to tell us kids, "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all."The next suggestion I hear? I think I'll just stop without saying much, beyond "Thanks," or, "I see." If the advice or suggestion seems to apply, or have value, I'd be silly not to take some action upon that advice. If not, I have no trouble remembering the phrase, "If it doesn't apply, let it fly."
More importantly, I'm inclined to look at whether or not the person issuing the advice or suggestion has recently, or ever, applied the recommendation themselves. If so, I'm certainly inclined to ask for some more details... because I've no wish to be a naysayer.
Whenever she'd hear one of her five children degrading or making fun of someone else's efforts/dreams/input to a subject, my mother would quickly say, "Don't knock it... unless you can do better."
Isn't it funny how our mother seems to get wiser... as her children get older?
Never allow naysayers to slow you from your cause, mission, quest, or goal.
Those who say it cannot be done are people who do not pursue big thoughts.
By limiting their thinking, naysayers inevitably retard their own progress in life.
Live your True Zen of Succeeding, BE your own True Zen of Succeeding.
Push aside the naysayers and repeatedly remembers what is in it for you.
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Naysayers Versus True Zen of Succeeding
In such a unique category, the naysayer is focused only on sabotaging others! Naysayers may pretend to this, naysayers spawn from pretending naysayers, mostly.
A generous majority of humans grow up to be quite like their parents, or quite opposite. Children of alcoholics tend to become alcoholics... or teetotalers, avoiding alcohol entirely.
Naysayers often come from naysaying parents, creating a generational string of toxic naysayers. Committed to finding all the reasons why a defined goal cannot be achieved, or, worse, should not, naysayers may be second only to ourselves in providing many of the largest obstacles of our lives. On the bright side, naysayers also give us at least one of the fastest, most useful Life PowerGems. Naysayers are beacons of learning how not to live, how not to win, because they quit before starting. What great achievement can be obtained if you quit before you start, or before many failures enroute? The True Zen of Succeeding provides further support and evidence by simply looking at all naysayers. Without knowing such naysayers, the True Zen of Succeeding knows naysayers succeed rarely, if ever. Is that not proof unto itself? Look at any winner or champion in life; You cannot find a naysayer among them. Henry Ford said, "Those who say it cannot be done should stop interrupting those who are doing it."
Naysayers live opposite the tenets of the True Zen of Succeeding, in a different arena than the True Zen of Succeeding operates within.
Take the same energy invested by the naysayer listing their reasons it cannot be done, with ways of figuring out how to get it done. Nearly every time that you have a strong enough "why," you end up figuring out the how. Use this Shapetalk PowerGem intentionally.
It is the same brain energy, which will likely succeed at WHATEVER you point it at, being so cybernetic in design and function, the same brain energy, redirected from the negative of naysayers to a True Zen of Succeeding-style plan for getting it done.
Precisely what do I want, and by what deadline?
Who can help me get it done?
What ten reasons can I choose from in asking for their help?
What is in it for me? The strength of this answer overshadows everything else
A cornerstone of your internalized True Zen of Succeeding is that having a why so often reveals the how. The True Zen of Succeeding asserts that most other factors lag far, far behind your control of these factors. Naysayers come from naysayers, and have a pitiful manner of creating or encouraging other nascent naysayers. The True Zen of Succeeding is a pathway for you to prove YOUR naysayers wrong by finding ways to get the job done. The True Zen of Succeeding invites your opposition to naysayers, for naysayers ARE opposite of the True Zen of Succeeding.